I took an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) training recently and the pursuer/distancer material stood out to me. This blog discusses those concepts.

This blog discusses the potential inclusion of a 5th horseman: a lack of generous assumptions in the relationship, and an antidote of utilizing curiosity and open-ended questions.

Happy TDOV! The blog discusses the notion of diverse genders is an ancient one.

I explain the importance of validating statements in couples and family therapy.

I explain the “Four Horsemen of the Apocolypse” and their antidotes. Gottman couples therapy is helpful because it is about taking actionable steps to change.

Neurodiversity reinforces my belief that gender diverse people are unique, special, and critical thinkers.

A two part guide to checking in.

The importance of reframing in couples/family therapy, giving generous assumptions, and replacing dynamics with a more positive feedback loop.

Thoughts on sibling violence/abuse. This blog focuses on best approaches for parents when dealing with this issue, as well as the ramifications of not appropriately dealing with this within families. I was compelled to write this piece because I find many clients minimize the effects of this issue. Sibling violence is very normalized in our society, yet I believe it is directly correlated to lacking in conflict resolution skills as an adult.

I explain family systems theory, and a little bit about Murray Bowen and who he was. Thinking systemically and relationally is so important in our work!